When You Write a Post You Didn’t Plan to Write

May 01

Today is the inaugural post for the month-long blogathon in which I’ve signed up to participate. I had planned on writing about how a self-professed lazy blogger, like me, would manage to post every day for an entire month. I was going to write about how I’m not a lazy person. I simply am lazy when it comes to blogging. How I’d rather be writing for a client, writing my latest novel, or, well, just procrastinating in general. I was going to write about my sources of inspiration to write more diligently this month of May.

But I’m not going to write about that. Well, not really. That’s because I found out this morning that my friend died. So, writing about a blogathon doesn’t seem right today. She was…is?… was (that doesn’t sound right) an incredible woman. As a mother of three boys, myself, I know that her greatest pride is her children. She stayed home to raise her three sons, encouraging them to reach their fullest potential. She was a loving wife to a devoted husband. Both she and her husband gave (give?) an incredible amount of their time to the community.

She was a fixture at her kids’ schools and her church where she volunteered in every capacity. Her radiant personality filled a room with positive energy the moment she stepped into it. Anyone she knew found it impossible to talk to her without erupting into a fit of giggles. Her personality was larger than life. Those of us who know her are so grateful to have been a part of her life.

She touched people by her very presence. Her physical presence. And her community is all the better because of that. Blogging, Facebook, Twitter, Google – certainly they all provide a means to connect us to one another. But my friend reminds me (she reminds us all) that the greatest connection between humans is through physical company. Being present offers a personal intimacy that cannot be replicated through a status update on Facebook, or a post about one’s kids. Her life of giving to others inspires me to never underestimate the importance of sharing personal time with family and community.

Perhaps after reading this post, or maybe at the end of your work day, you might consider shutting off your computer, and powering off your smart phone. Then spend some uninterrupted time with your family or friends. Maybe even consider ways in which you can become better involved in your real (not virtual) community.

I had planned on writing about my source of inspiration, which is a post I came across on the well-known blog, Her Bad Mother. It stressed the importance of every blogger to “give good blog” which compels online writers to commit to ”principles of good virtual citizenship and to actions reflecting same.”  

I started blogging, a few years back, for that very reason – to try to make the virtual world a better place – which is why “give good blog” resonated so well with me when I read it. I hope today’s post not only inspires a more compassionate virtual world, but also a more compassionate real world.



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One comment

  1. Hi Danielle,
    I am so sorry that you lost your friend. I understand that struggle of talking about someone in the past tense rather than saying “she is a great mom” and forcing yourself to say “was”. Just does not seem right.
    Maybe blogging this month will be helpful to you even though it certainly seems silly considering.
    My mom passed away last May 19 and I still want to say that she “is” a great mom rather than she “was” one.
    Blessings and hope for a better month,


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